Are you a conformist, or are you your true self? Do you know conformity kills creativity and result in a waste of talents? Unfortunately, most people conform to fit in. Either due to pressure from society, family, and friends, or they do not even know that they conform. Myself included. In my opinion, conformity is a learned or unconscious behaviour.

Conforming is a learned behaviour

It started with my own observation of my career change. A career that I worked very hard for more than 20 years. I realized that I had been trying to conform to what everyone else was doing. So that I could be more like them so that I was not “weird.” However, it eventually killed my creativity that I could not continue that kind of lifestyle anymore. Curious, I traced back my life. It was apparent that I saw all the signs of my trying to conform to society’s expectations or my perception of what society expected of me.

I later realized that conforming behaviour is a taught-behaviour. It started with our education system.

Our Education System uses one-size-fits all apprach

Before school, we behaved based on how we felt. Our days were never the same. We created our magical world by using our imagination and intuition. As soon as we started school, we went through these one-size-fits-all kind of tests and examinations. Our results showed us where we were strong or not strong. In the areas where we were “weak”, we needed to do catch up with our study to ‘meet’ the “standards.” Based on the definition from Oxford languages, it refers to standard as an idea or thing used as a measure, norm, or model in comparative evaluations. Yes, in order to compare, we were all put in this SAME model so that WE CAN BE JUDGED WHETHER WE WERE GOOD OR NOT.

We suppress our natural talents to fit in

But if the fundamental of our existence as humans is in our ability to express our natural talents. By using the same standards to judge everyone, our natural talents definitely do not get the chance to express themselves. Not only that, with this same measuring system, we started to doubt our natural talents. We even tried to suppress them.

The majority of people SECREATELY want a different life

Further, from a mindset management perspective, any idea that is invested with emotions on a continuous basis becomes fixed in our subconscious mind. Any idea that is planted in the subconscious mind will, by law, expresses itself in our physical world. This means that we have planted the idea of conformity into our thinking patterns and behaviour patterns. We express it unconsciously. That is why the majority of us SECREATELY want a different life.

85% of people do not like their jobs

Further, based on the Global Gallup Poll in 2017, 85% of the world population are not happy with their jobs. This is a very serious problem in our society. I truly hope we can all help solve this problem together.

The universe rewards you for being YOU

Fortunately, as humans, our collective consciousness has grown, in particular over the last few years. Different spiritual gurus have risen to help raise consciousness , and the movement of conscious living is also growing. If you look around, celebrities like Lady Gaga, Jennifer Lopez, and my recent heroes Bob proctor, Sam ovens, all learned to think consciously and independently about what THEY REALLY WANTED. They ignore 99% of what the world was telling them and just went after what they knew they wanted. As a result, they express themselves fully and the universe rewards them accordingly

It is your life, you only need to care what YOU think of yourself

It seems that it does take courage to live your life as your authentic self. But then again, why does it require courage when living as our authentic self should be our birthright. One way to break out conformity is to express more how you feel regardless of what you think other people would think of you. Yes, you only care about what YOU would think of yourself.

Reconnect with your true self

Other ways to break conformity that is rooted in worrying about what people think of you, You can post videos on Youtube, Instagram or facebook  You need to DEVELOP some courage muscles that would help you break free from all the constraints that once immobilize you. As indicated in the title of the post, the universe needs you to be you. As soon as you stop being someone else, the real you will show.

In fact, It has always been there waiting for you to RECONNECT.